Early Emerging Lessons & What’s Next for Marriage in California

December 4, 2008

In the New Year, throughout the state, in each of the major geographic regions, there will be gatherings of interested community members and organizations to help craft strategies for moving forward. The first meeting, open to all who care about marriage equality, is scheduled for Tuesday, Jan. 6 at 6 pm in The Center’s auditorium (3909 Centre Street). Whether you were involved in the last campaign or not, whether you have ever been involved in any political or advocacy work or not, whether you communicate through Facebook, email or more old-school methods, I hope you will consider attending and offering your energy, thoughts, ideas and leadership.

The devastating loss in California is barely four weeks old and already it has begun winding its way into the landscape and narrative of American and LGBT movement history.

In 2000 the San Diego County vote on Prop 22 was 63% Yes – 37% No. In 2008 it appears it may finalize at 54% Yes – 46% No. That represents huge gains in eight years, but not enough.

The San Diego LGBT Community Center and The Center Advocacy Project hosted an in-person community town hall the week following the election in order to solicit campaign comments, criticisms and feedback, and to begin to collect ideas for moving forward in San Diego. More than 350 people attended, and The Center Advocacy Project website continues to collect and record any and all feedback and suggestions at http://www.centeradvocacy.org (CAP blog) in order to hear from all who have thoughts to share.

Part of every one of our now 30 (!) losing campaigns has been the vital question: why and how did we lose? That question from Prop 8 has preoccupied bloggers, LGBT publications, some progressive newspapers, a few mainstream publications and the minds of most LGBT and LGBT-supportive citizens. Many are simply moving on now, while others continue to search for answers.

In every campaign thus far, and this one seems no exception, the easy, first answers to why we lost have sometimes been either based on incomplete or inaccurate information, or are so campaign-specific that they quickly become irrelevant and forgotten in a wave of disappointment and rage. Few remember those other 29 campaigns or any of their lessons.

After 40 million dollars and the lifeblood of hundreds poured in for more than five years, we all deserve more this time. And the biggest thing we deserve is to learn what this loss has to teach us.

The No on 8 campaign came closer to victory than any campaign in our history. It raised more money and more volunteers, and garnered more votes for equality across all demographics than we have ever before achieved. But it did not result in victory. And we must learn the larger lessons if we want to win in California or any other state. If any of the lessons are lost, we are doomed to repeat the outcome until we learn each of them.

Early Lessons Learned

Infrastructure. Every Sunday night during the No on 8 campaign we watched as our own poll numbers dropped. Every Sunday night! Do you know what enormous force it takes to drive poll numbers? It wasn’t a new ad, nor was it a new headline that reliably drove our numbers down every week. It was an incredible organizing tool.

It is a national, statewide and local organizing tool. It is comprised of people who do not necessarily share a neighborhood, a job, a school, or even the details of faith, but do feel connected in some basic way and feel some unity of purpose.

1,500 churches, each with 500 to several thousand families on their membership rolls, meeting weekly, can effectively communicate a message, a fundraising need or a strategy. That is the infrastructure that beat us and we must build it for ourselves, both in the real and virtual worlds.

Technology and online grassroots organization. The last few weeks post-election have taught us that there is vast capacity and creativity in the on-line communities: the people, the ideas and the technology. There is much to be learned about the potential that can be built and unleashed through the interface of on-line grassroots organizing with existing capacities. Not only are there thousands of unaffiliated on-line activists, there are also thousands of LGBT and progressive organizations, groups and lists that could be better connected to each other locally, statewide and nationally. We must find new and creative ways to connect all of these and build a community infrastructure that encompasses them all — and that can win. This means a shift in organizing strategies informed by the masters of those new strategies and supported by those with the infrastructure to sustain and grow them.

It is already clear that any future campaign will need to provide more opportunities for more people to get involved at the grassroots/voter contact/visibility levels. Both new technologies and old school methods will be required.

Money. We have learned many lessons about the need to finance our movement and our candidates, but the real lesson of investment we have not yet fully learned. Successful social change in the new millennium costs money. We need early, well-financed, educational, coalition-building campaigns and early campaign dollars — money that must come from all of us, not just a few amongst the wealthy.

How did they beat us? With $20 million that poured into their campaign $100 to $1,000 at a time in August. We couldn’t and didn’t catch up until October. Why not? Because we don’t yet understand the lessons of Emily’s List — early money buys more of everything and late money buys little except regret.

This movement and campaign can teach us three painful but important lessons about money: investing early in ground work pays a better dividend than waiting for the crisis; early campaign money will determine who gets to define the issues and the debate, and that side generally wins; and it will always take more than anyone imagined possible.

Our LGBT rights movement has not yet learned to invest heavily early, instead of ending up in the reactive position. Moreover, we continue to count too heavily on very large donations from a few rather than many, many smaller donations from all who care about fairness and equality.

Aligning Our Base. Much of our attention post-election has focused on communities where we have fewer friends and less support. Less attention has been focused upon the critical need to deepen and strengthen our relationship with our allies: people who support a woman’s right to choose, labor, environmental allies and other progressive causes and voters. We did not get every vote we could have from the progressive base — and it may well be the case when all the votes are counted that those base votes were absolutely critical to winning in such a close campaign.

Further, we have not successfully registered every voter or turned out all of those voters on Election Day. In a presidential campaign with voter turn-out at the highest level in decades, one in five California voters still did not vote. Many of those voters are LGBT or LGBT-supportive voters.

Ethnic and faith community relationship development. The time to build a relationship with your neighbor is not when you need his signature on a new fence permit — or his/her vote. While much outreach prior to the campaign and during the campaign was conducted, it is clear that more relationship development is desperately needed in order to build a winning coalition.

We have allowed the right-wing extremists to hijack the national faith agenda and to continue to target ethnic communities through that faith. For the last 10 years we have watched while the agenda of the most extreme right has come to define all faiths. Gone are the ministries of justice, of hope and of compassion. Those are not the voices that lead the faith movement. They have been replaced by the screeching voices of fear, of hate and, above all else, of victimization. And we have watched it happen. We have allowed those voices to define what is “tradition,” what is “love,” what is a “rightly lived life,” what is “family,” and what is democracy.

If we don’t fight back, if we don’t help to embolden the communities of faith to reclaim their values and stand up and say “no,” we will continue to lose.

We must invest our energies in those who understand faith as a driving force for justice and for equality and help them to take back their faith and install new leadership.

By the same logic, ethnic communities are our communities. LGBT does not equal white. Thousands among us are Latino, African-American, Chinese, Filipino and Native-American, and we desperately need their voices, wisdom and strength. Moreover, the struggle for justice is not only an LGBT struggle; it is a struggle for racial, gender and religious freedom. It is a struggle for the soul of American democracy and our energies need to be invested in all communities that struggle towards that “more perfect union.” We need to be invested every day as a full partner, not only when we find we need their votes. This is a commitment that will require planning, time, energy and an overall commitment to the ongoing development of much deeper and broader relationships. Either we strategically invest in and commit to this or we continue to suffer the consequences.

Voters and polling. In spite of the fact that a measure such as this had never before been defeated anywhere in the nation, many believed that victory for No on 8 was a foregone conclusion. This belief was reinforced and fed by public polling that, throughout the campaign, over-stated the degree of support for LGBT equality and under-estimated the likely response of conflicted voters when the inevitable attacks occurred; attacks that always occur in one form or another. This was not the first time that public polling over-stated the support of the voters for equality. In fact, it has happened in almost every single campaign we have lost — and most predict it will happen again.

Like many contentious social issues, the public mood in many urban areas appears to divide 40% yes – 40% no with 20% “leaning” or “uncertain” or “conflicted.”Unlike many other types of ballot campaigns (bonds, etc.) most of the voters (80%), have strong opinions about marriage equality from the beginning, and a small minority will dictate the outcome. In the No on 8 campaign, equality received 8% of the 20%, but we needed 11% of the 20%.

We need a much deeper understanding of what kinds of polling and turnout models can better predict the outcomes in LGBT equality ballot measures. Moreover, we need to educate the entire progressive community about these polling discrepancies so that public polling does not again lull us all into a false sense of security.

Telling our Stories. We all hope for a day when the ultimate, uber-creative team can design a 30-second commercial that tells the story of our struggle and our strengths, our decency and our shared humanity.

That day will come when we have told our stories already, in our own ways, in our own voices, to the hundreds who surround us — to our neighbors, our elected and appointed representatives, our co-workers, our families, the families of our children’s friends, our congregations and our friends — and have helped to teach all of those people to re-tell our stories to their own ever-broadening circles. On that day, a powerful, persuasive commercial will be possible, because it will do what all successful commercials do: remind uncommitted voters of the importance of something they already know.

Ongoing education campaigns must focus on teaching us to find the courage not to censor our own lives. We must find the courage not to leave our conservative aunt off of our holiday letter list, to include the fact that we were married, that we are grieving a terrible loss of our rights. We must take those everyday opportunities to tell the truth about our lives rather than continue to hide in the terrible, oppressive silence of omission. The loss on 8 has already emboldened many to begin to tell their stories and truths to those who oppose marriage equality, and the outcomes have been surprising!

Political issue campaigns last 4-5 months and are successful or not based on the previous/ongoing work of their movement. We are not there yet on marriage equality with the majority of voters and California reminds us that we have work to do. That work begins with a full understanding of all of the lessons and moving forward with a plan to address those challenges.

Please join us in the New Year as we attempt to craft solutions and a plan for moving forward to win full equality. Please also see any of the following for updates on upcoming events and programs:

CAP Facebook page

1) MILK Movement, Dec. 5
Honor the memory of Harvey Milk.

2) Day Without a Gay, Dec. 10
Join the economic boycott by spending nothing.
jointheimpact.wetpaint.com/page/Day+Without+a +Gay

3) Light up the Night for Equal Rights, Dec. 20
Join a demonstration that will make an impact on the private sector.
jointheimpact.com/l ight-up-the-night-for-equa l-rights/

4) Urge your legislators to support the invalidation of Prop 8.

Dr. Delores A. Jacobs
CEO, Center Advocacy Project


Community Forum on Monday, November 17

November 15, 2008

6:30 – 8 pm at The Center
The goals of the session are:

  1. To provide a forum for questions, comments, suggestions, criticisms and feedback regarding the last No on 8 campaign. While much of the information that will allow a formal and complete analysis of the statewide campaign is still being collected, some information is currently available. A complete evaluation of the statewide campaign will be conducted and made available; however, many of you have written to request a forum here in San Diego sooner rather than later.
  2. To begin to collect and record some of the great suggestions and thoughts from community members for going forward, both locally and statewide. The community-level organic energy is incredible and many have great suggestions and thoughts that should be considered and discussed.

Please join us as we examine lessons learned and look toward the next steps to equality!
Dr. Delores A. Jacobs
Center Advocacy Project

Marriage Equality Comments and Suggestions

November 7, 2008

Part of any ongoing education or political campaign for social change is evaluating our strategies and the results of those strategies. The ongoing campaign for marriage equality is no different. We are deeply interested in hearing from everyone about all aspects of the strategy regarding Proposition 8 and all other marriage equality efforts.
Please take the time to send us all your comments, criticisms, suggestions. They will all become a part of the community wide debriefing strategy and ultimately, part of the ongoing planning.

Comments are sent directly to me – they will be catalogued and recorded then routed accordingly: if they are about a political campaign they will be sent to that campaign’s leadership team; if they are about educational strategies, they will be reviewed by the No on 8 leadership team.

We appreciate all feedback and suggestions as we continue to form strategy and shape materials and actions to ensure that California’s promise is realized and equality and justice for all are achieved! Click the “Comments” link below to submit your message.

Dr. Delores A. Jacobs
The Center

Marriage Equality: Overview and CA Prop. 8

July 16, 2008

Marriage Equality: Overview and California Proposition 8
Freedom, Fairness and Equal Treatment under the Law

The historic struggle for marriage equality is a struggle for freedom, fairness and equality for all. It is a fight for the most basic of American values: equal treatment under the law.

The most central American value is freedom. It is the principle upon which our nation was founded. It is what we pledge our allegiance to: “… with freedom and justice for all.” Fundamental freedoms like the freedom of speech, freedom of religion and the freedom to marry are at the heart of who we are as Americans. While many things divide us; this principle is what binds us together as a great nation.

Those who support the freedom to marry for gay and lesbian couples understand this. Regardless of their own personal views on gay and lesbian couples, regardless of whether they personally wish to marry; they understand that the freedom to marry is basic. No group of tax-paying, law-abiding Americans should be singled out and denied freedom or equal treatment under the law.

Those who oppose marriage equality seek to single out and exclude long-term, loving, committed gay and lesbian couples from the freedom granted to all Americans: the freedom to marry. In state after state they work to write exclusionary language into the state constitutions that denies the basic freedom to marry to gay and lesbian couples.

Even in California.

Gay and lesbian marriages began June 17th, 2008 in California. It was an emotional and moving day for all Californians that believe in love and commitment. A day some couples had waited 25, 30 and even 50 years for. But the struggle for freedom did not end on that note.

On June 2, 2008 the California Secretary of State certified Proposition 8 for the November 2008 ballot. A yes vote on Proposition 8 would amend the California constitution to excluding lesbian and gay couple from the fundamental freedom to marry and to only recognize marriages “between a man and a woman.”

Those who oppose equal treatment under the law are determined, will go to any lengths and have promised to spend millions to deny gay & lesbian couples the fundamental freedom to marry and deny those couples equality.

Some call the battle for equality in California the “civil rights battle of our lifetimes.” Other writers remind us that the nation is watching. Civil rights and equal treatment for all Americans is what is at stake.

Make sure your answer to the question from our youth, the question that will undoubtedly be asked: “Where were you when that fight was going on?” is a resounding “I was there. I was there fighting for freedom for all Americans.”

Feeding the Fears of their Faithful

July 9, 2008

By Delores Jacobs, Ph.D., CEO The Center Advocacy Project

In their on-going, desperate efforts to exclude gay and lesbian couples from the fundamental freedoms promised to all Americans under our constitution, the extremists resort to the sad tactics we have all seen before. Tactics designed to manipulate their own faithful congregations!

Their basic strategy is to feed the fears of their faithful.

What is to be feared, according to them? They say (with an entirely straight face) if gays and lesbians are allowed to marry, it is only a matter of time before pastors will be arrested in their pulpits and all Christians will be forced to give up their religious beliefs. Sound contrived and alarmist? It is.

But it is a message they continue to repeat over and over, pull up obscure cases from Spain and Canada, and take decisions about the improper use of government money out of context. Apparently, they never met a fact that couldn’t be made up or misrepresented.

Read below from their own http://www.protectmarriage.com website. First they tell their readers that, in fact, the constitutional decision that granted gays and lesbians the right to marry DOES PROTECT THEIR RELIGIOUS FREEDOM

“On page 117 of the California Supreme Court ruling, it exempts pastors, stating the following: “Finally, affording same-sex couples the opportunity to obtain the designation of marriage will not impinge upon the religious freedom of any religious organization, official, or any other person; no religion will be required to change its religious policies or practices with regard to same-sex couples, and no religious officiant will be required to solemnize a marriage in contravention of his or her religious beliefs. (Cal. Const., art. I, § 4.);”

Wow, they can all relax a bit! It is possible, as the US Constitution and its framers saw decades ago, to guarantee us all freedoms: freedom to marry and freedom of religion. But, instead of preaching hope, optimism, faith, belief in justice, and celebrating a great nation, they go on with the following:

However, before you breathe a sigh of relief … the freedom to proclaim the Gospel hinges on the outcome of this election.

Instead of celebrating the protection of their freedoms, they tell their faithful that they are more vulnerable, they are going to be arrested for believing, and the very freedom to believe itself is in danger!!!

Unbelievable? It shouldn’t be. These are the tactics we have seen time and again throughout this country and in this battle. The only difference is that this time, long-term, committed gay and lesbian couples are the alleged hidden, explosive, world-altering danger. And , according to their spinners, the only apparent remedy or safety lies in excluding loving, committed couples from the fundamental freedoms granted to us as Americans.

Defeat the fear-tactics. Say NO to the deceptive, divisive, hate-filled rhetoric. Support the faith leaders who stand up and denounce these tactics. Vote NO on the Marriage Ban November 4th.

A Message from Dr. Delores Jacobs

June 13, 2008

On May 15, 2008 millions of same-sex California couples held hands as they held their breath. Held their breath and hoped. Hoped that a lifetime of love and commitment, paying their taxes and showing up to help would matter.

They waited to hear whether the California Supreme Court would rule for fairness, would rule to honor their love, commitment and families, and would finally offer them the same opportunities for realizing their hopes and dreams that all other Californians enjoy.

They dared to hope that it would matter. And finally, it did. Fairness won.

And no words could ever describe the moment those families realized they had won the right to be treated equally. Screams of joy and laughter for some, just quiet tears for others who have waited and worked a lifetime. The Court did its job that day – to ensure that all Californians are treated fairly and equally under the law. And it made history.

Take a moment today to be grateful. Be grateful for every organization that ever took up this fight, for every volunteer who fought the good fight, for every elected official who took the risk to stand with us, for every dollar that anyone gave to keep the struggle alive, for every family member and friend who believed that love could win over hate and fear, and for an America where fairness and equal treatment under the law can still win the day.

Yours in victory, Delores

Key Points in the Supreme Court Marriage Equality Ruling

May 22, 2008

The historic May 15th 2008 California Supreme Court ruling that upheld the rights of all Californians to marry had several very interesting key points:

“[R]etaining the designation of marriage exclusively for opposite-sex couples and providing only a separate and distinct designation for same-sex couples may well have the effect of perpetuating a more general premise — now emphatically rejected by this state — that gay individuals and same-sex couples are in some respects ‘second-class citizens’ who may, under the law, be treated differently from, and less favorably than, heterosexual individuals or opposite-sex couples.”

“There can be no question but that, in recent decades, there has been a fundamental and dramatic transformation in this state’s understanding and legal treatment of gay individuals and gay couples,”

“California has repudiated past practices and policies that were based on a once common viewpoint that denigrated the general character and morals of gay individuals, and at one time even characterized homosexuality as a mental illness rather than as simply one of the numerous variables of our common and diverse humanity. This state’s current policies and conduct regarding homosexuality recognize that gay individuals are entitled to the same legal rights and the same respect and dignity afforded all other individuals and are protected from discrimination on the basis of their sexual orientation, and, more specifically, recognize that gay individuals are fully capable of entering into the kind of loving and enduring committed relationships that may serve as the foundation of a family and of responsibly caring for and raising children.”

– Chief Justice George of the California State Supreme Court, May 15, 2008